I feel that there are too many men here (cannot speak for the women, as I don't deal with them) who are just here goofing around and basically not really interested in meeting somebody for "real".
I decided for that reason to disable winks - if somebody is seriously looking to start a relationship, the only way to really do that is to talk.
I'm not aggressive, and I normally don't or wouldn't email somebody first - so I figure for me this is the best option.
If I meet somebody, great; if not, at least I gave it a fair shot. I'm not going to spend my time replying to winks from people who have no intentions of contacting me via chat or email. It's pointless.
I feel that there are too many men here (cannot speak for the women, as I don't deal with them) who are just here goofing around and basically not really interested in meeting somebody for "real".
I decided for that reason to disable winks - if somebody is seriously looking to start a relationship, the only way to really do that is to talk.
I'm not aggressive, and I normally don't or wouldn't email somebody first - so I figure for me this is the best option.
If I meet somebody, great; if not, at least I gave it a fair shot. I'm not going to spend my time replying to winks from people who have no intentions of contacting me via chat or email. It's pointless.
Sorry,I am now sending winks and not e-mails like I used to because I have encountered too many persons with ulterior motives.This despite I can being a gold member.E-mails are just a waste of time,unless I can be sure the person is not a scammer.
Sorry,I am now sending winks and not e-mails like I used to because I have encountered too many persons with ulterior motives.This despite I can being a gold member.E-mails are just a waste of time,unless I can be sure the person is not a scammer.
There was a time when I hated those silly winks..now I simply accept them as a greeting like 'hello'. I dont think you should worry too much but treat it with a pinch of salt. The thing I hate most where men fail to post their pics as if they are hiding something.
There was a time when I hated those silly winks..now I simply accept them as a greeting like 'hello'. I dont think you should worry too much but treat it with a pinch of salt. The thing I hate most where men fail to post their pics as if they are hiding something.
Unfortunately this blog is re-inventing the wheel. We have had several over the years expressing the exact same perspective. What to do? Turn the Wink option off and no one will have hurt feelings!
Unfortunately this blog is re-inventing the wheel. We have had several over the years expressing the exact same perspective. What to do? Turn the Wink option off and no one will have hurt feelings!
Generosity of spirit is a "must" for someone like me. I have met so many wonderfully generous souls along this life path I have chosen and they have taught me what that phrase truly means.
I Wish You All The Best, Dreamer
Thanks Kahlua,
Generosity of spirit is a "must" for someone like me. I have met so many wonderfully generous souls along this life path I have chosen and they have taught me what that phrase truly means.
I would have to agree with you. I was a paid member for quite a while with basically nothing to show for it. I still sometimes respond to winks but it seems to me as well that the guys here are just playing around.
My opinion is this, if you have a "sincere" interest in someone, invest a few dollars to contact them via email and see where it might go. Would a month of gold membership bankrupt you?
So many of you guys come across as cheap or seem to think that "we" women are supposed to be the ones paying.
I am very egalitarian and don't "need" anyones' money, however, the way you approach this speaks volumes about your generosity of spirit, which is VERY important to me.
Cheers, Dreamer
You are so right - it's not that I'm cheap, far from it - but I'm not one that is going to be sending a lot of emails out, so I just decided that most of the guys who send winks expect what? That I'm going to run join and email them? I don't think so.
I think your generosity of spirit is a wonderful statement - that's exactly it. Smart lady!
Quoting hidesertdreamer:
Kahlua,
I would have to agree with you. I was a paid member for quite a while with basically nothing to show for it. I still sometimes respond to winks but it seems to me as well that the guys here are just playing around.
My opinion is this, if you have a "sincere" interest in someone, invest a few dollars to contact them via email and see where it might go. Would a month of gold membership bankrupt you?
So many of you guys come across as cheap or seem to think that "we" women are supposed to be the ones paying.
I am very egalitarian and don't "need" anyones' money, however, the way you approach this speaks volumes about your generosity of spirit, which is VERY important to me.
Cheers, Dreamer
You are so right - it's not that I'm cheap, far from it - but I'm not one that is going to be sending a lot of emails out, so I just decided that most of the guys who send winks expect what? That I'm going to run join and email them? I don't think so.
I think your generosity of spirit is a wonderful statement - that's exactly it. Smart lady!
I would have to agree with you. I was a paid member for quite a while with basically nothing to show for it. I still sometimes respond to winks but it seems to me as well that the guys here are just playing around.
My opinion is this, if you have a "sincere" interest in someone, invest a few dollars to contact them via email and see where it might go. Would a month of gold membership bankrupt you?
So many of you guys come across as cheap or seem to think that "we" women are supposed to be the ones paying.
I am very egalitarian and don't "need" anyones' money, however, the way you approach this speaks volumes about your generosity of spirit, which is VERY important to me.
Cheers, Dreamer
Kahlua,
I would have to agree with you. I was a paid member for quite a while with basically nothing to show for it. I still sometimes respond to winks but it seems to me as well that the guys here are just playing around.
My opinion is this, if you have a "sincere" interest in someone, invest a few dollars to contact them via email and see where it might go. Would a month of gold membership bankrupt you?
So many of you guys come across as cheap or seem to think that "we" women are supposed to be the ones paying.
I am very egalitarian and don't "need" anyones' money, however, the way you approach this speaks volumes about your generosity of spirit, which is VERY important to me.
